The unconscious is a mental repository that holds our repressed feelings and experiences—all that was too painful to feel or know at the time it occurred and all that remains so.  These troubling experiences usually occur in childhood, that vulnerable time of life when we were trapped in our situations and when the implications of what we saw and experienced overwhelmed us.  To save our sanity we held these difficult feelings and experiences for a later time, in hopes that we would become strong enough and authentic enough to bear their emotional impact. Continue reading →

At our conception, we are immaculate.  We are born imbued with truth, a spark of the divine.  And no matter what happens to us on our life’s journey, at the core of each of us remains a true and perfect self.  This is one of the mysteries of life and also one of the saving graces of human existence.  No matter what traumas we endured during our childhood, even during our troubled days in the womb, our core remains inviolate, untainted, sacred, and pure.

But why are we sacred?  Our humanity is sacred because of our capacity to interface with truth. Continue reading →

People who have not healed their wounds of childhood have a propensity for violence—and live looking for a fight.  From bickering with a partner to self-destructive behavior to squabbles at work to outright international warfare, all violence stems from adults who have not addressed the wounded child within and instead seek revenge outside.

Only adults who have confronted our parents—either face-to-face, or more essentially, within our psyches—and resolved our childhood rage can approach conflict in a mature manner.  Continue reading →

True love comes through the true self.  The perfect conduit for love is an honest person—pure of heart, healed of trauma.  For love to come through us without distortion, we must not be barricaded by defenses or poisoned by wounds from the past.  We must be a clear vessel.

If we are living not from our true self but from a defended, distorted reality we will fail to love truly.  If, in childhood, we have hidden our true selves from the crippling clutches of our parents and a world that would crush us and we have not healed this, our adult expressions of love will be distorted. Continue reading →

We need to have a love affair with ourselves.  We must walk in our own nurturance, delight in the pleasure of our own company, and court our own soul—the soul that most awaits our attention and affection.  Then we can love others without strings attached.  When we’re in love with ourselves we can approach others without neediness or a hidden agenda—the expectations of rescue.

If we were neglected as children, we enter adulthood as love-cripples.  Now we must take the time alone, without the distractions or projections so often a part of romance, sex, and having a partner, in order to love the damaged child within. Continue reading →

The perfect partner is a co-traveler on the path to truth.  He or she is striving just as hard as we are to understand and resolve his or her defenses.  Childhood traumas that have been repressed in the unconscious must be brought into full awareness—enlightenment—before we can become, or attain, a perfect partner.  But this is a process.  It takes time.  Even if we, or our perfect partner, regress into old, negative behaviors or attitudes, we remember that the essence of each of us is perfect.  At the core of each is truth.  If eruptions of negativity occur, we understand that the source is a wounded child.  Continue reading →

As we grow, we leave others behind.  We outgrow certain relationships and part company with those who cannot grow with us.  We seek souls with whom we have an affinity—those who nurture our developing sense of self and our deepening wonder at life.

As we wake up, we leave behind those invested in sleep.  As close as our relationships may have been in the past, our convulsions of consciousness are not welcome to those who remain in dissociated oblivion. Continue reading →

Isolation is human despair.  When isolated, we are cut off from human exchange, separated from others, even separated from ourselves.  We experience intense loneliness, for without human contact life loses meaning.  We humans are social creatures.  We benefit greatly when others confirm our reality and corroborate our emotions and ideas.

If we are honest, we can feel isolated in the middle of a crowd.  Even in the midst of a sea of family and acquaintances, we can feel intensely alone.  We can even feel alone in a marriage or partnership—and sometimes most poignantly so. Continue reading →

Remaining single, we can devote our life full-time to personal evolution.  It is no mistake that many priests, shamans and holy people of the past remained single, celibate, and married to something deeper than another human being.  Now this can be described in psychological terms as being married to truth.  Our human nature weds our higher nature.  Our instincts wed our ideals.  We are at one, singular of purpose, as we evolve in life.

There is great pressure within conventional society to be in a couple—and then to get married and have children.  Continue reading →

As our quest to align with our true self intensifies, we yearn for the support of others.  We understand what a blessing it is to have a friend, even one other person who understands the struggle of coming to consciousness.  Yet we yearn for others—a conscious community.

But the rest of the world seems oblivious to the dimensions of our daring adventure.  We hardly risk discussing our struggle publicly, fearing we’d only receive the world’s contempt.  People defend against the depth of the journey for good reason:  it strips them of their false psychic structure, ejects them from their safe position in the family, and leaves them standing alone—with the truth that they have avoided for a lifetime.  No wonder most avoid this terrifying fate.

In the past, when people’s true self erupted and disturbed their semi-false equanimity, many turned to support groups, more liberated religions, and friends and family for protection from the loneliness of their budding originality.  But we have now entered a new time.  False protection is no protection at all.  We’ve now outgrown conventional structures and traditional answers as a response to the new life gestating within us.  We’re alone in the wilderness following a path unmarked, listening to barely discernible whispers from the universe to guide the way.  At times, the path seems more uncertain than true.

We yearn for a community with answers.  We need a new community at a new level of consciousness.  But does this ideal community exist?  The fellowship we seek is so revolutionary, so at the forefront of the evolution of human consciousness, that we are among its first members.

But we recall that we have often been alone and outcast, as are any rare mutants who deviate from the norm.  We were outcast in our family and our childhoods.  We know we have felt like this before, and we survived. Continue reading →