The perfect partner is a co-traveler on the path to truth.  He or she is striving just as hard as we are to understand and resolve his or her defenses.  Childhood traumas that have been repressed in the unconscious must be brought into full awareness—enlightenment—before we can become, or attain, a perfect partner.  But this is a process.  It takes time.  Even if we, or our perfect partner, regress into old, negative behaviors or attitudes, we remember that the essence of each of us is perfect.  At the core of each is truth.  If eruptions of negativity occur, we understand that the source is a wounded child.  Continue reading →

As we grow, we leave others behind.  We outgrow certain relationships and part company with those who cannot grow with us.  We seek souls with whom we have an affinity—those who nurture our developing sense of self and our deepening wonder at life.

As we wake up, we leave behind those invested in sleep.  As close as our relationships may have been in the past, our convulsions of consciousness are not welcome to those who remain in dissociated oblivion. Continue reading →

Isolation is human despair.  When isolated, we are cut off from human exchange, separated from others, even separated from ourselves.  We experience intense loneliness, for without human contact life loses meaning.  We humans are social creatures.  We benefit greatly when others confirm our reality and corroborate our emotions and ideas.

If we are honest, we can feel isolated in the middle of a crowd.  Even in the midst of a sea of family and acquaintances, we can feel intensely alone.  We can even feel alone in a marriage or partnership—and sometimes most poignantly so. Continue reading →

Remaining single, we can devote our life full-time to personal evolution.  It is no mistake that many priests, shamans and holy people of the past remained single, celibate, and married to something deeper than another human being.  Now this can be described in psychological terms as being married to truth.  Our human nature weds our higher nature.  Our instincts wed our ideals.  We are at one, singular of purpose, as we evolve in life.

There is great pressure within conventional society to be in a couple—and then to get married and have children.  Continue reading →

As our quest to align with our true self intensifies, we yearn for the support of others.  We understand what a blessing it is to have a friend, even one other person who understands the struggle of coming to consciousness.  Yet we yearn for others—a conscious community.

But the rest of the world seems oblivious to the dimensions of our daring adventure.  We hardly risk discussing our struggle publicly, fearing we’d only receive the world’s contempt.  People defend against the depth of the journey for good reason:  it strips them of their false psychic structure, ejects them from their safe position in the family, and leaves them standing alone—with the truth that they have avoided for a lifetime.  No wonder most avoid this terrifying fate.

In the past, when people’s true self erupted and disturbed their semi-false equanimity, many turned to support groups, more liberated religions, and friends and family for protection from the loneliness of their budding originality.  But we have now entered a new time.  False protection is no protection at all.  We’ve now outgrown conventional structures and traditional answers as a response to the new life gestating within us.  We’re alone in the wilderness following a path unmarked, listening to barely discernible whispers from the universe to guide the way.  At times, the path seems more uncertain than true.

We yearn for a community with answers.  We need a new community at a new level of consciousness.  But does this ideal community exist?  The fellowship we seek is so revolutionary, so at the forefront of the evolution of human consciousness, that we are among its first members.

But we recall that we have often been alone and outcast, as are any rare mutants who deviate from the norm.  We were outcast in our family and our childhoods.  We know we have felt like this before, and we survived. Continue reading →

Until we are enlightened we must not have children.  We will hurt them and add more wounded people and pollution to an already stressed planet.

The unenlightened, which defines most of us, have children to avoid the most painful and important birth of all—the birth of our inner child who carries the seed of the true self.

We avoid giving birth to ourselves because it is too painful—and instead we procreate, giving birth to another.  Continue reading →

We all have work to do beyond our job and career:  it is to become conscious.  As we awaken from the child’s nightmare of despair we begin enlightened living.  As we heal the crippling offenses of the past we become free to develop our gifts—without fear of inner censorship.  Living and working authentically, we discover life’s meaning and make an original contribution to the world through our daily existence and labor.  We help others see the way, and we help life evolve further into consciousness.  This is our true work.

In becoming conscious, we must work to know our story and its implications. Continue reading →

What if we can’t work?  What if we lose our job, or quit because our job violates our values?  What if we simply have outgrown our job and find that it has become a rut?  What if we need to find more meaningful work?  What if our emotional growth is so intense that it prevents us from working for a while?  What if our process from healing from our traumas is so deep that we are incapacitated?

When we can’t work, we have a job to do.  We must listen to the lesson life is sharing with us during this out-of-work period.  Chances are life is asking us to find a deeper purpose. Continue reading →

People with a differing orientation, not only to sex but more importantly to life itself, are a needed alternative in a world stuck in a destructive rut.  Anyone who lives honestly, aligned with truth and with an authentic identity, has differentiated from their trauma-based family and from the conventional norm.  Such people are a great asset in awakening humanity to its deepest purpose.  The gay variation is part of evolution’s quest for truth, a needed difference to redeem the world.

The conventional heterosexual norm remains wedded to denial in the face of a global crisis.  Average people, many of them gay as well—as so many gay people strive to emulate the heterosexual norm—see no problem in becoming parents. Continue reading →

Life’s deepest purpose is to evolve into consciousness, not to stay stuck in humanity’s futile rut of replicating parochial patterns that pollute and overpopulate the planet.  Evolution’s fittest to fulfill this consciousness-seeking plan are not members of the non-reflective norm.  The fittest is the mutant, any creative outsider, gay or straight, who remains unmarried, childless, and willing to self-reflect.  Continue reading →