Why do we gay people send such a seismic rumble through society, religion, and our families? Certainly in such a sexually permissive world as ours, one more variation on a sexual theme shouldn’t be grounds for concern. So why does being gay cause such negative reactions?
Deviation from gender conformity is the surface source of homophobia in the norm. The femininity in gay men and the masculinity in lesbians challenge the norm’s strict gender compliance. But at a deeper level, it is neither gender variation nor even divergent sexual behavior that actually alarms the norm. Continue reading